Since the beginning of May, I have driven over 4,000 KM. This includes the scenic drive to and back from Vancouver and I recently I tacked on another 2,100 km for a road trip with my girls to the town of Dauphin, MB for a memorial service for my aunt who passed away in December.
I would like to point out that as much as I am done with driving for a while, I did enjoy it. The drive through the BC interior was stunning. The spring green was fresh and alive, tie that in with the surrounding mountains and sometimes blue skies, you have all the ingredients of a road well traveled.
On the flip side, driving through the prairies was long, less visually engaging, but in its own way allowed me to be in my head without distractions. Of course, the by-product of all this ‘thinking’ and ‘listening’ was how creative ideas would flow through my mind, wondering how I can grow my publishing business with so many other ideas to canoodle in my mind and see where they take me.
Another realization I had while cruising the number one highway… taking a step back from being so invested in my business every minute of every day. I was able to get some perspective at how my constant work mindset has taken a toll on my psyche and energy levels.
When I got back to my desk I re-introduced myself to myWeek and began planning out what projects I have on the go and various responsibilities. As I reviewed what I have going on, my inner gut began recoiling at the idea of adding events that either took my limited time away from focusing on my clients as well as my own business dreams as well as connecting with friends and family in off-line mode.
The one day I had with my family, half of it was spent chilling at a campground and simply hanging out. Talking, playing cards, games and I even gave my newly 14-year old daughter a chance in the driver's seat with her first driving experience.
Growing up, I spent almost every summer in this small town. My family and I would load up the suburban and head east for weeks at a time to connect with family.
I haven't been back to this town since my Baba's funeral over twenty years ago, and as such, I haven't seen my extended family since then.
I have had some people comment on the life I have created and the accomplishments I have achieved. It’s wonderful, but it has also come at a price. I have sensed an internal impatience inside, where the idea of sitting still without any intentions of accomplishing anything. As I reconnected with my family around the picnic table this weekend I made the effort to embrace those moments and focus on simply enjoying each other's company.
The wonderful outcome was actually was that I found I was actually being re-introduced to myself! Reconnecting my mind with my heart and of those around me. I was reminded that family is home, regardless of distance and personal views.
So here I am pondering what I can share that you see value in. And the thing that hits me is you very likely are aware of the issue of digital distractions and how we are losing touch with those who matter. When we consider texts a conversation is when we see the decline in quality relationships. So I am not gonna sit here and start 'preaching to the choir'. It's more a matter of making a choice to take action to make a change.
The mission I have given myself out of all of this is to double down on the myLife value statement, "Find FOCUS, live with INTENTION, bring CLARITY, and plan for WONDER." I am going to:
- stop feeling like I 'should' be doing what 'I think' others consider priorities. It's time to start saying NO more, so I can say YES to what matters.
- choose events and connections with people who 'get me'. I am tired of the feeling I need to constantly 'pitch' my life. I mean, you are either in or you aren't. It's all good.
- start focusing on work and activities that build my vision instead of just talking about it on the interwebs.
- define what is 'enough' for me. When I have that outlined I will have a better idea of what to keep and what to let go of.
So here is the thing, I bet you that if you were to sit down and do the same. Even just this next week - write down everything you have on your plate in both your business and personal realities and you will begin to sense internal apprehensions about a few commitments and opportunities where your gut isn't feeling so keen. Listen to it. Sending regrets to yet another of many networking events is a good thing. Keep some time for yourself, slow down and allow space for simply enjoying the moment.
If I was some yoga guru, I'd throw in some link to some kind of mediation, but I don't think we need another audio or app to give us permission to stop. Permission isn't given to you, it's something you simply have.